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Comment on How to afford all of these wedding showers, wedding gifts, baby showers, graduations? by Gerald

Gerald — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 08:06:38 +0000

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Comment on How to afford all of these wedding showers, wedding gifts, baby showers, graduations? by Upper10th

Upper10th — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:21:52 +0000

When I was in your situation, I just sent cards. I looked up quotations to handwrite onto the cards, and I added personal thoughts or other things to make them nicer. Walgreen’s has nice-looking blank cards at about $1.50/box of twelve, and dollar store sell specific-occasion cards at 2/$1.
Send regrets (phone or write to say you’re sorry but you can’t be there) for the showers and for any other parties you can’t afford to attend. Remind yourself (and others if necessary) that gifts are never required or owed. It feels strange to send no gifts, but sometimes personal circumstances make it necessary. Depending whose party it is, explain that your finances are too tight to allow you to attend. Most people understand that situation nowadays.
If possible, make offers to help such as doing behind-the-scenes work for some of those parties (you could help serve food or you could look after children during a wedding or shower, for example). That way, you’ll be with your family even though you can’t attend as guest.
Try to keep cheerful about this. This stage will pass and one day you’ll be in better shape to afford to do more.

Comment on How to afford all of these wedding showers, wedding gifts, baby showers, graduations? by it's not for you

it's not for you — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 05:12:42 +0000

Even when your not invited to a wedding or baby shower or graduation, etc. be on the lookout for good deals. You can always find them when your not invited to something, but if you will get them when you see them, and put them up, you won’t have that problem when the invite comes.

Comment on How to afford all of these wedding showers, wedding gifts, baby showers, graduations? by me40

me40 — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 04:18:14 +0000

Start doing crafts or pick and choose who’s thing u go to or get a box and any time you have a few extra dollars look in the clearance departments and pick stuff up that might be able to use. i also set a limit 5 to ten bucks per gift. i make my cards by using index cards then stamps or stickers to use as a gift card.

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by Baby girl due March 2010?

Baby girl due March 2010? — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 18:22:37 +0000

Why would the second child not deserve nice, new things and a celebration just like the first? If I were to have a second, my registry lists would change to account for big things I already have (a pack-and-play, a crib, a bottle warmer), but I don’t see anything wrong with registering for a few new things (clothes, binkies, diapers). Most importantly, I think there should be another party to celebrate you and the beautiful new life you’re growing! Parties are about sharing this experience, not about worry what’s “proper”

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by Ryee-- Due 12.17.09

Ryee-- Due 12.17.09 — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:27:07 +0000

i think its fine if they baby is a different gender and at least a few years apart. If someone plans it for you anyways there really isn’t much you can do about that lol

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by Mowi3

Mowi3 — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:22:21 +0000

I have just been discussing this same topic recently & thinking how it kind of sucks for the 2nd kid to get shafted w/out having a baby shower & getting new things. I think each child is a blessing & should be honored & acknowledged by having a shower or some sort of celebration. Maybe you could have a more intimate shower w/ just close family who wouldnt have a problem w/ coming. I would be happy if someone threw me a shower, my mom is for my baby (which is my first) and Im ecstatic that she is wanting to be involved. Best of luck!

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by Heather [new mommy!]

Heather [new mommy!] — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:09:20 +0000

If baby #2 is a different gender, or its been more than 4 years then I think it is perfectly acceptable!

If not, I still think there should be a party, just not a party soley for the sake of gifts.

But by all means accept any baby shower or gifts thrown your way!

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by Des

Des — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:08:33 +0000

I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a baby shower for your other child on the way. Especially if there are stuff that you need for your new baby. I would say throw one because it is mostly in celebration of bringing a new life into the world not just about free stuff. I don’t see a problem with having a baby shower for baby number 2. You could never be too prepared for baby. There will always be stuff you need and a baby shower helps you get things you may need.

Comment on How do you feel about baby showers for child #2? by MommaA

MommaA — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:08:09 +0000

There are a lot of variables to consider. If the babies are different sexes or it has been over 5-6 years between children, typically a small intimate baby shower is not considered taboo.

On the other hand, if the children are the same sex and only a couple years apart, it would seem kind of selfish.

In the end it is completely up to you. You know your friends and family and they may want to throw you one regardless. Congrats on #2!